If it were only about "having sex with." Many followers (who else would buy their books/music/concert tickets and watch them in the visual media they are counting on our seeing?) were and are thrown off by the timing of books/videos extolling adoration for long-time wives/partners, then BAM. I would have been more respectful of Graham's honesty in his book, or his interviews if he revealed that life at home, unfortunately, had changed for him. Same for NY. The media presentation for both men hit many people wrong. No one has mentioned that a big flare-up in tempers came when JB discovered DH secretly cavorting with JFK jr. I did read long ago that Jackie adamantly rejected acceptance of DH. Perhaps another reason for Crosby's dislike of DH. Browne reveals to his followers enough of his lingering anguish over losing loves in many of his songs, even admitting to physicality in "In the Shape of a Heart," not written about DH, but possibly applicable. The interest (and deflation) lies in what these music icons have written/videoed and lies in fans who love the musician's art, holding to the notion that the lyrics are the moral badge these musicians wear, and stand for, including their seemingly settled family lives, and fans like this notion. Old craziness is interesting to read about, but there was something comforting about wanting these people to mean what they say, mean what they write, mean what they do. Unrealistic? Probably. It's a lot more than "having sex with." Graham deeply hurt his family. I read about 2 of his children's anger regarding his behavior. If they were angry about his abrupt, hurtful bailing on the family, was Susan happy about it? We'll never know, other than the snips of info that indicate she was not happy about it. This discussion goes on and on because it has something to do with trusting what they offer the public, then breaking that trust by seemingly suddenly acting like jerks to their spouses, to their children. Being a jerk in ego-driven musical entanglements? Foolish behavior. Up-ending a purported strong marriage/lives of children? A more respectful, dignified presentation could have been given. They are very public figures.